Title is worded with intention. I am looking to foster a connection with someone and build a relationship based on personal compatibility with our feedism specific compatibility being only PART, and not the most important one at that.
Although I understand why this is the case, I am tired of every single conversation being about feedism-specific compatibility and describing fantasies and/or teasing. Do not get me wrong, I love that shit too, I would not be here if I didn't. But I am not looking to base the entirety of my relationship on this kink. I'm looking for a person in partnership, not just a feedee. If feedism is the MOST important thing to you in a partner, I support you in finding someone that can be that for you, but that person is not me. If you desire to base a majority of your life participating in this kink such as expecting to always be in sub/dom dynamic, I love that for you but I'm not your dom. I do love these things about feedism but I'm not committing life to them. I've had a fixation on feedism since I was a kid but it is not the full extent of my sexuality. I'm demi-sexual to an extent, vulnerability is unbelievably arousing and attractive to me. In non-feedism context I experience physical and sexual attraction to women with fitter physiques. Doesn't mean I'm not carnally attracted to making someone bigger or soft round tummys or love handles, just that I'm not singularly focused.
A directly related but distinct boundary I wanted to clarify is that I'm not participating in any relationship where the goal being to grow anyone especially my partner to morbid obesity or beyond and sustain that. I cannot reiterate this enough, I still think helping a feedee totally submit to hedonism and embrace overwhelming obesity is an incredibly hot fantasy. Its just a fantasy though, I am not willing to do that with anyone let alone my long term partner. My bigger even hotter fantasy is sharing a long life with someone I love, traveling the world, supporting their happiness, and being healthy along the way. I am not shaming anyone for wanting otherwise, I love that for you, its just not for me.
"Okay then why the fuck are you here?"
Thanks for asking! I love feedism and want to enjoy that with someone. I am willing to explore what that looks like with someone who has a similar outlook to myself on how feedism relates to partnership. Potentially this looks like planning gains and exploring the consequences for a period of time. For example I occasionally hike and imagine I would do so with a partner, we could plan a set weight gain amount (30 lbs for example). In addition all the sexy, fun of feeding and growing someone, the goal of that gain would be take the larger, rounder, softer, more out of shape version of you back to the trail and tease you for needing to stop and comparing you to your old self and if you need to sit down forcing you to put on some pig ears until you get back up. And maybe that weight is fine for a bit or maybe we plan weight loss after if your uncomfortable, or maybe we just allow weight to fluctuate naturally. Depends on whats enjoyable and how we work as a team. The point of that hyper-specific example is just to relay that I am looking for enjoy this kink and I think theres plenty of ways to do that without the absolute extremes of the fantasy.
"Seems like you could probably convince someone who isn't into this to indulge your fantasy and you'd have better luck fulfilling what you want."
Astute observation! Unfortunately, I do have a bit of a moral qualm with asking that of someone who isn't already into it. I also view it as a large enough part of my sexuality I do want to regularly engage with it. Even if I didn't have a moral qualm its tough to ask for someone to show up constantly for something their not into (I know I've been there), I don't want to ask that of someone.
Due to alienating probably 90% of the community with the boundaries I have, I am absolutely okay with starting long-distance and figuring how to shorten it when the time makes sense (hopefully sooner rather than later but that sort of thing depends on a lot of factors). Please don't be afraid to reach out even if this is old. I have no intention of keeping this profile once in a relationship, so if you are reading this I'm still searching.
Remade this because I bone-apple-tea'd the first title.
Although I understand why this is the case, I am tired of every single conversation being about feedism-specific compatibility and describing fantasies and/or teasing. Do not get me wrong, I love that shit too, I would not be here if I didn't. But I am not looking to base the entirety of my relationship on this kink. I'm looking for a person in partnership, not just a feedee. If feedism is the MOST important thing to you in a partner, I support you in finding someone that can be that for you, but that person is not me. If you desire to base a majority of your life participating in this kink such as expecting to always be in sub/dom dynamic, I love that for you but I'm not your dom. I do love these things about feedism but I'm not committing life to them. I've had a fixation on feedism since I was a kid but it is not the full extent of my sexuality. I'm demi-sexual to an extent, vulnerability is unbelievably arousing and attractive to me. In non-feedism context I experience physical and sexual attraction to women with fitter physiques. Doesn't mean I'm not carnally attracted to making someone bigger or soft round tummys or love handles, just that I'm not singularly focused.
A directly related but distinct boundary I wanted to clarify is that I'm not participating in any relationship where the goal being to grow anyone especially my partner to morbid obesity or beyond and sustain that. I cannot reiterate this enough, I still think helping a feedee totally submit to hedonism and embrace overwhelming obesity is an incredibly hot fantasy. Its just a fantasy though, I am not willing to do that with anyone let alone my long term partner. My bigger even hotter fantasy is sharing a long life with someone I love, traveling the world, supporting their happiness, and being healthy along the way. I am not shaming anyone for wanting otherwise, I love that for you, its just not for me.
"Okay then why the fuck are you here?"
Thanks for asking! I love feedism and want to enjoy that with someone. I am willing to explore what that looks like with someone who has a similar outlook to myself on how feedism relates to partnership. Potentially this looks like planning gains and exploring the consequences for a period of time. For example I occasionally hike and imagine I would do so with a partner, we could plan a set weight gain amount (30 lbs for example). In addition all the sexy, fun of feeding and growing someone, the goal of that gain would be take the larger, rounder, softer, more out of shape version of you back to the trail and tease you for needing to stop and comparing you to your old self and if you need to sit down forcing you to put on some pig ears until you get back up. And maybe that weight is fine for a bit or maybe we plan weight loss after if your uncomfortable, or maybe we just allow weight to fluctuate naturally. Depends on whats enjoyable and how we work as a team. The point of that hyper-specific example is just to relay that I am looking for enjoy this kink and I think theres plenty of ways to do that without the absolute extremes of the fantasy.
"Seems like you could probably convince someone who isn't into this to indulge your fantasy and you'd have better luck fulfilling what you want."
Astute observation! Unfortunately, I do have a bit of a moral qualm with asking that of someone who isn't already into it. I also view it as a large enough part of my sexuality I do want to regularly engage with it. Even if I didn't have a moral qualm its tough to ask for someone to show up constantly for something their not into (I know I've been there), I don't want to ask that of someone.
Due to alienating probably 90% of the community with the boundaries I have, I am absolutely okay with starting long-distance and figuring how to shorten it when the time makes sense (hopefully sooner rather than later but that sort of thing depends on a lot of factors). Please don't be afraid to reach out even if this is old. I have no intention of keeping this profile once in a relationship, so if you are reading this I'm still searching.
Remade this because I bone-apple-tea'd the first title.
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